ihaveabsolutelynoidea:

things that are not inherently awful or something you should feel ashamed of:

• being white
• being male
• being cisgendered
• being straight or heteronormative
• being able bodied
• being neurotypical
• being conventionally attractive

things that suck and you should feel ashamed of:

• denying the privilege that comes with being any of those things
• attempting to highlight your thoughts, views, ideas, experiences, etc, over those of the people you have privilege over when discussing their oppression
• complaining whenever someone of the oppressed group calls you out
• mislabeling, misgendering, or using slurs to refer to said oppressed group
• trying to showcase your allyship by over-exaggerating your beliefs or vying for attention for acting like a decent person 

it’s really that simple.